Yesterday I was at another wedding that wasn't my own.
Going to weddings can be difficult for me. First off, despite what a lot of people think, I'm actually rather shy around strangers and people I only know in passing. So it's a scary social situation for me. And secondly, having been married in a large, full and very fun ceremony and then years later going through the trauma of divorce, weddings can be a reminder of what I had and lost and have not yet been blessed with again.
But something about yesterday's wedding transformed me. Yes, it was a reminder of where I was and where I am now. But there was something about the groom that sparked a new joy in me. This man was so happy to be getting married, so in love with his beautiful bride, that a bit of bitterness inside me broke and was replaced with the desire to be like that happy husband, no matter what it takes to get there.
Now, I'm not going to catalog here the many things that went wrong in my marriage. But I am going to make a confession -- I did not know then, and am only just now getting a glimmer of the realization of just what it takes to be a good husband. And I have yesterday's groom to thank (thanks Mark).
But it wouldn't be a TheWriteJerry column without me slipping in a bit of a lesson. So here it is:
If you want to begin learning how to be a great husband, and how to build a happy marriage, then check out
There you'll meet a Curt (not to be confused with yesterday's inspirational groom, Mark) and his wife (known as Mrs. Happy, not to be confused with yesterday's inspiring bride, Susan). Curt and Mrs. Happy are a couple with more insight than I may ever have on the subject of marriage. Their daily journal celebrating marriage will give you lots of insights and laughs whether you aspire to one day be married or already are married.
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